How to Break Up With Someone
It's over. Here's advice for teens on how to break the news.
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"You've got to stick to your guns," Fox says. "It's not a negotiation. You're going into this conversation to let your boyfriend or girlfriend know that you are leaving the relationship." Listen respectfully to what they have to say. Then, move on.
If you're getting out of an abusive relationship, take extra care of your safety. Make sure you have a friend with you whenever you might run into your ex. Block the person from calling, emailing, and posting on your Facebook page. Ask your parents, teachers, and guidance counselor for help so you don't get into a dangerous situation. They can also help support you as you recover and look toward a healthier, happier relationship with someone else or just be by yourself.
Remember, it's fine to be single! It's much better be on your own, happy, and safe than with someone who's bad for you.
How to Handle Getting Dumped
When someone breaks up with you, it can be tough to handle. "It's like someone has just busted a huge hole in your heart," Fox says. "It's OK to feel sad. It's OK to cry."
Just about everyone gets their heart broken sooner or later. Most people get over it in time and go on to have other healthy relationships.
And remember all the healthy relationships you already have -- with your friends and family! Hang out with them and do some things that you enjoy. Friends can go a long way to help you feel like yourself again.
If you're really devastated and just can't get over it, you definitely need to ask for help.
"If you're feeling really depressed -- you cannot sleep, you're not eating -- talk to somebody you trust," Fox says. That person can be a parent, your school guidance counselor, or a therapist.
What's Good About It?
It can be hard to see the bright side when you're in the middle of a breakup. But chances are, some good things came from your relationship.
"I think it's important to look at what you gained from the time you were together with this person," Fox says. "There's a lot of potential for learning."
Did you learn more about yourself from the relationship? Or about what you want in a boyfriend or girlfriend? Then next time, you'll choose someone who suits you better.