Parents can help protect
teens from violent situations in the following ways:
Be involved in your teen's
Know what your teen enjoys and how he or she spends free
Know who your teen spends his or her time with.
Explore ways your teen can avoid unsafe
situations and can avoid hanging out with troubled teens.
your teen about the effect a group can have on his or her life. Peers have a
strong impact on a teen's behavior.
Protect your teen from violent media as much as possible. Youths who watch a lot of this violence may come to believe that such behavior is okay. This can make them more likely to act violently themselves. It can also lead to nightmares, aggression, or fears of being harmed.
Discourage physical violence. Help your teen find ways to resolve
conflict without resorting to violence.
Role-play conflict. Let your teen determine
which style fits him or her best. Role-play ways to help your teen walk away
Be a positive role model. Use nonviolent ways to
resolve conflict in your home. Think about how you and your fellow parent each address conflict
with your teen. Talk together to
make sure your approaches to conflict are firm, fair, and consistent. Let your teen see you deal with a disagreement by
discussing the issue, not by physically or verbally attacking the other
person. Teens who witness violence in their home or
community are more likely to choose violent means to resolve conflict.
Remove guns and other violent weapons from
The most common victim when a teen
fires a gun in the home is the teen. The second most common victim is a teenage
Locking a gun in a separate place from
the shells may help discourage access, but it is not foolproof.
Encourage your teen to become involved in organized sports, music, or
recreational or service activities.
Participation in sports gives teens a sense
of skill mastery and contributes to a positive self-image.
part of a team is a healthy way to release energy.
and other recreational activities provide teens with good role models.
Talk to your teen about healthy and unhealthy relationships. Dating abuse is common among teens. Abuse can be verbal, emotional, psychological, sexual, or physical. It can happen in person, over the computer, and over the phone. Explain that a caring partner would not do something to someone that causes fear, lowers self-esteem, or causes injury. Ask your teen to talk to you or another trusted person if he or she has concerns about abuse. Have your teen keep the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline toll-free phone number (1-866-311-9474) handy. For more information, see the topic Domestic Abuse or go to www.loveisrespect.com.
Discourage alcohol and drug use. Alcohol and drug
use are involved in over half of all violent situations among teens. Talk with
your teen about what to do if he or she is in a situation where alcohol or
drugs are being used.
Be a positive role model. All other adults in
the house and other family members can be good role models as well.
Use safety measures, such as wearing your
seat belt, whenever possible.
React to difficult situations in a
calm, relaxed manner. Avoid yelling or name-calling.
own alcohol or drug use.
Do not give your teen the idea that you
have to have a drink in order to enjoy yourself.
Never drink and
Pay attention to your teen's perceptions.
Teens who view the world as harsh, interpret harmless situations as
hostile, and view people as either victims or bullies are often more prone to
violence. If this describes your child, talk to him or her about your concerns.
Get help. Talk
with a health professional or licensed counselor if you think your teen may need help
responding to conflict.
This information is produced and provided by the National
Institute (NCI). The information in this topic may have changed since it was written. For the most current information, contact the National
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September 05, 2013
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